I hear you. I can relate more than you think! You’ve got 70,553 things you KNOW you need to be handling – some personal, some you’ve been avoiding for months (maybe even decades?!) and then there’s the list for work too. Right?! There’s stuff you’ve GOT to do RIGHT NOW and then there’s also the things you probably should be doing, but can’t find the time to commit to doing them. I have exactly the same thing going on! And it can be SO overwhelming and sometimes even paralyzing to the point where you don’t do anything at all. Know what I mean?
Whenever I feel like this, the only thing that makes me feel better and usually a little bit more motivated to actually do something is to do a thorough brain dump – where I write #HELP ME I’M DROWNING down. For me, when I’m feeling the most overwhelmed, the last thing I’m thinking about is that I need to brain dump. I’m usually feeling discouraged and my mind has probably already ventured down the path of negativity. Because that’s what it does. But the thing is, when I’m mindful about doing a brain dump and getting everything out of my mind – literally the minute I start feeling anxious or overwhelmed – it helps, TREMENDOUSLY! It’s definitely one of the best things I can ever do for myself, do you guys feel the same way?
This method of de-stressing has worked SO well for me, I wanted to share it in a post so we can use it together.
So, welcome to my brain dump…..hope it resonates with you too!
Here are the fundamentals:
What is a brain dump?
A brain dump is pretty much what it sounds like. It’s taking pen to paper and getting all your thoughts OUT of your brain and onto paper. It’s a release and it’s you facing facts (don’t forget, I am here with you:). It’s taking every thing you’re worrying about, questioning, feeling, needing to do (losing massive amounts of sleep over….), and organizing those thoughts OUT of your head and putting them somewhere ELSE (on paper). Freeing you and allowing the “human” side to come out again.
It’s taking the things that you think about DAILY but don’t ever do out of your mind and creating a game plan for them. It’s basically a time to organize your thoughts, which we’ll get more into. Intrigued yet?
What triggers a brain dump?
Most of us have a tendency to let things build up and procrastinate – whether it’s big tasks (doing your taxes..I could really do some whining here…..ughhh, it’s almost time again…..sorting…..) or small ones that you need to do every single week (the laundry). And once you’ve got enough things built up, you can’t help but feel overwhelmed. How could you not? It’s easy to look the other way or postpone your to-do list, or even how you’re feeling. These are the feelings that nudge you into a brain dump, right?
These will probably look slightly different for everyone, but for the most part, I think certain stressors – or events leading up to a brain dump session – are common. Here are times when I notice my brain getting way too full and stressed over and over:
- When I need to pay bills or set up things like a tax folder for this year – aka finances in general
- When my schedule is jam-packed and I keep thinking its OK
- Before I’m traveling – even if it’s a personal, fun vacation
- When life is feeling out of balance – maybe I haven’t been taking the best care of myself and feeling blah
- After an argument or when I’m randomly (or not so randomly) feeling emotional for whatever reason
- When my house is a mess or unorganized (hi, closet all the time or my mother is on her way to stay – it NEVER stops happening..even though I’m 112 years old!!!)
- When I have a lot of deadlines for work or Kendall or my Mother or life in general
- When I have a lot of random tasks on my to-do list that I’m avoiding (even if they aren’t super important or “big”)
- Sunday nights
I’m sure there are other times I’m in need of a brain dump, but again, those are just some common ones. Figuring out my triggers, and physically writing them out like that, is helpful on its own, honestly, so I’d suggest doing it. Noticing the pattern of when you feel overwhelmed is a powerful tool and it might help offset some of the stress. It helps you be more self-aware, which is always a good thing in my opinion.
My Ultimate How To Guide for doing an effective Brain Dump
The beauty of brain dumps is they can be as simple or complex as you need. Simply writing things out before bedtime, or everything you need to do or are thinking of, can be therapeutic enough. I notice that this is usually OK for me when I just have a few things swirling around or when I can’t sleep. But for the times where I’m really feeling out of control (life wise), I need to put more effort into my brain dumps. Here’s how:
Start writing everything down
I mean it when I say EVERYTHING. Grab a pen and paper or your computer (and fave note-taking app) and just write down everything you’ve been thinking about and clogging up your head. Don’t hold back and don’t limit yourself. Cover everything you need to do, should do, have thought about doing, should think about doing, anything and everything without any sort of priority. What is bugging you? What is distracting you? What are you most dreading? What do you feel like you should be thinking about doing? What is necessary? What is important? Urgent? Write it all down. Let yourself be random and unorganized. Just let it flow!
Add Some Order
After I’ve spent some time just letting myself go (writing down anything and everything), I’ll then start over on a new page and start to think in categories. It’s different every time but a lot of the time it looks a little something like this: MUST DO, personal stuff, errands, important but not urgent, emails to respond to, later things, etc. (again, this is always changing!)
For the first go round, you just want to get everything out. Then keep writing, but start to think in “categories” as mentioned above. It might be more helpful to think of it as personal, work, home, friends, grandkids, family, errands, etc. Or whatever works for you!
Try to go in some sort of order so that your brain isn’t jumping all over the place. First write down everything at the forefront of your brain and then start going through different areas of your life and writing things down as they pertain to that area – such as self-care, deadlines, stuff at work or related to a particular client, house things, etc.
Step away + Schedule Time to Return to it
Now that you’ve gotten everything out on paper, take a minute to do something else to get your mind off of it for a bit. But keep it near you so that as you think of new things, you can add to it. Instead of letting those thoughts derail your focus from your current task, just write it down on the “I’ll do it later or think about it later list.” I literally keep a small notepad in my purse at all times. For those that really know me….I lack the “adult” gene and NEVER carry a bag soooooo – my pad is in my car. There….I admitted it!
Schedule a half day or a few hours (usually ends up being a weekend day, but you gotta do what you gotta do!) shortly after your brain dump session to start organizing your list, prioritizing, and then actually handling things and crossing them off. I don’t know what it is….I truly LOVE “crossing off” things on a list? Anyone else? Possible support group?
Organize Your List
Circle anything that you can handle THAT designated day, which is usually a lot, and just do it. These are usually the “easy wins” for me and things that I can just GET out of my head and be DONE with! Go put you laundry in, send that thank you note, email someone back, organize all the errands you have and head out for a few hours, etc. You got this!
For the things that you can’t do that day, prioritize them and mark in your calendar, right then and there. Give them a space in your life to actually address them or get rid of them. You can always keep a “someday” list if deleting them gives you anxiety (it does for me, ha!). But the point is that you want to simplify your list and be able to focus on as few things as possible. Trust me, it will help you be more productive. Even if you want to (eventually) do ALL the things – you’ve got to be able to do one thing at a time. Multi-tasking is NOT ok here. Single-tasking ONLY is most productive game plan.
For the things that are emotional or more personal (feeling blah about your weight or your bestie has called THREE times about lunch), schedule things that will help: sign up for a class, go to the store for healthy food, schedule time to clean out your closet and whatever else you think might help.
The act of writing everything out – the brain dump – is super helpful, but unless you take the time to assess what needs to be done, you’ll find yourself in brain dump situations far too often. Same thoughts, over and over. No thanks!
Why do I love brain dumps?
I am here to say… there is NOTHING better than after you do a brain dump and start knocking things off that list. NOTHING! It’s one of the best self-care practices I’ve ever done for myself and the feeling afterwards is like nothing else. Peaceful, inspiring, strong. I just love it. It’s really one of the only ways I’ve found to handle anxiety right away – and I’ve tested a lot of things. I look at the fact that my life usually gets organized as the icing on top, but for me, this is mainly about mental clarity.
Do any of you do a form of brain dumping?
What does your technique look like? What are your triggers? I’d love to hear so I know I’m not THAT bad:)