I think that we as women are brought up to ask others what they may need before we get around to even thinking about what WE may need. First, it may be your littles or hubby. Just as you think you’ve gotten to the YOU part… have aging parents to consider or adult children who need attention. Can I get a “hands up” here??!!!

But research shows that starting small and doing little things for yourself really makes a difference in both your cortisol level and your quality of life.

I feel pretty confident that you and I have one thing in common: We want to constantly learn andn improve our lives and be the best version of ourselves. But unfortunately, many people have lived their lives pretty much the same way for a very long time. They don’t feel like they deserve to make changes … even for the better.

You are capable of making the biggest transformation of your life. Huge, lasting changes shouldn’t take you years. But it means making a choice to go beyond your current way of life and embracing new habits. To create the level of life you ultimately want, you have to change something you do daily.

Your life is your designer creation. It is your duty to live true to yourself, with authenticity. Your life’s mission is to express yourself boldly, create what you love and love what you create. It’s about expanding and living your vision of yourself — until it is the greatest possible expression of who you are. Don’t overthink it…just take the first step!

The most important step to change is this:

You must first make a commitment. You have to decide that you really want to make a change or transform your life this year, and that it’s more important than almost anything else. And find the things that eat up your time that are less important than the changes you want to make.

What is YOUR why?

Everyone I know wants some clarity. It’s the only way to reach deeper into yourself to find out what makes you come smile. We all start from somewhere confusing, because you probably like to do a lot of things. Defining that one thing that fuels your fire is key to changing your life.

Most people’s lives are still not clear. It’s a struggle almost every adult goes through. “What do I want to do with my life?” “What do I not suck at?” Millions of people have no clue what they want to do with themselves.  And that’s okay. This self-improvement thing is a process. Aim for forward movement NOT perfection. It’s a journey.

Curiosity and being open to explore the unknown, ready to embrace the surprises that come along the way, are essential attitudes for self-discovery and for gaining clarity about your own life purpose.

Margie Warrell, Author of Brave said:

“Knowing your why is an important first step in figuring out how to achieve the goals that excite you and create a life you enjoy living (versus merely surviving!). Indeed, only when you know your ‘why’ will you find the courage to take the risks needed to get ahead, stay motivated when the chips are down, and move your life onto an entirely new, more challenging, and more rewarding trajectory.”

If you are feeling unmotivated and a little shaky or like you are unfocused, can’t find anything or work that makes you lose yourself, you’re not alone — most people are in the same boat. Don’t be overwhelmed…just keep thinking and moving forward. Don’t stop pursuing your passion.

Spend time with POSITIVE people:

“Through the right people focusing on the right things, we can, in time, get on top of a lot if not most of the problems of this world. And that’s what a number of us are trying to do.” — Richard Branson

If you are to succeed in life, you need to recognize that your level of success, and satisfaction will often depend on a lot more people who may or may not have direct impact on what you do or how you do it.

Albert Einstein had Max Talmud, his first mentor. Max introduced a ten-year-old Einstein to key texts in math, science, and philosophy. Max took one meal a week with the Einstein family for six years while coaching young Albert.

Mozart’s father, Leopold, who was a noted composer himself, is believed to have greatly “helped” the child with his early compositions.

Okay, this one is HUGE for me. I am a BIG believer in listening to my gut. I find in looking back at decisions that if I had gone with my initial gut feeling…things would have had a drastically different outcome. Do you use your gut instinct often? Is it normally right?

No matter how noisy the world gets, no matter how busy you become, there would always be something inside you — a small voice that whispers in the quieter moments of life, taunting you about your un-lived life. If you listen hard enough, you can still hear it. When you decide to follow it, you will be fighting against conventional wisdom. Do it anyway!

When you make a decision to go against what society expects of you, and trust your gut, you will be choosing an uncomfortable and even painful journey that will be worth your while. The burden will be so enormous that you will have three options every step of the way: give up, give in or give it all you’ve got. Choose the latter. Square those shoulders and move forward.


Many very talented people are playing it small and not getting their message out there or benefiting from what they are good at. You have unique gift and the world needs to know about it. Share the joy – do it now!

Wherever you are, whatever you’re doing and wherever you are going, you owe it to yourself, to your art, to the world to do it well without fear of ridicule, criticism or failure.

You can be as big and successful as you can possibly imagine. You just don’t trust yourself enough yet. No matter who you are or what you dream of becoming, remember this:

No one ever came to this planet to take a back seat, play second fiddle or make it small.

You have everything you need to make an impact in the world. You don’t even have to start your own business. What you need is something you can you can emotionally and deeply connect with.

Get out there and show them what you’ve got!

“Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it. “— Bruce Lee

Stop questioning yourself. Stop listening to everyone else. The world is waiting for you to start something. Waiting to hear what you have to say.Waiting to use your creative product or service. Waiting to know YOU.

Waiting to share your ideas and original work. Remember the dream you were too scared to chase? It’s still not too late to give it a try. We tend to think that we’re not good enough, and give up before we even start. Or, become paralyzed and never start…..

The self-criticism and self-doubt will always be present, and the only solution is to just act in spite of them. Your first ebook, article, song, podcast, freelance work or creative work never will not be satisfying and perfect, and it’s okay.

When we express ourselves in a way that brings out the best in us, we’ve already succeeded. Step by step we improve. That’s what matters. It matters that you keep going.

Give yourself permission to screw up. And it’s okay when you do. Your next action is the most important step you will have to take after you screw up.

Picasso never achieved full mastery. Mozart never achieved full mastery. Kobe Bryant did not achieve full mastery. (Are you a teeny bit impressed that I am using sports stuff….actual names… so unlike me to know any of this stuff, right?!) Nobody can achieve perfection. It’s humanly impossible. But they showed up everyday to share with us. They never withheld back. Perfect lets you stall, ask more questions, safe it up and generally avoid doing anything that might fail.

Take advantage of the enormous opportunities the information age presents. You have everything you need to go make something meaningful. Something you deeply care about. You don’t have to be right when you start. But it matters that you begin.

And when you start, respect yourself and your work enough to spend yourself fully on the problems solve.

Don’t allow fear or comfort to rob you of years of engagement and fulfilling contribution.

Face those challenges “head on”….don’t shrink from them!

Write down all your obstacles and challenges. Reflect on those failures, and figure out what stopped you from succeeding. Write down every obstacle that’s happened to you, and others that are likely to happen.

Then write down how you plan to overcome them. That’s the key: write down your solution before the obstacles arrive, so you’re prepared.

What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. You are so much stronger than your weaknesses. You knew I’d work that Terminator thing in again, right???!!

Just start! There will NEVER be a perfect time…

When we least expect it, life sets us a challenge to test our courage and willingness to change; at such a moment, there is no point in pretending that nothing has happened or in saying that we are not yet ready. The challenge will not wait. Life does not look back. — Paulo Coelho

The bulletproof way to miss out on a career that means the world to you is to wait for the perfect moment. Your brain will always convince you into believing that you are never ready.

Never ready to take a step. Never ready to start a healthy habit. Never ready to start a passion project. Never ready to love again. Never ready to launch that project on your mind.

When it’s time to make the most out of your time, there are only two states: doing nothing and doing something.

Because doing something might be extremely uncomfortable for us we create a “holding” state of mind, a slight space between the two predefined ones. We call it “almost ready”.

Don’t feed your insecurities. Perpetual cycle of helplessness can kill everything and anything you’ve ever dreamed of doing! You are NOT helpless.

If you focus 100% on output without zero input you might just be fooling yourself into thinking that you are moving forward while in fact, you are spinning in circles. Take a deep breath and begin again after you re-focus.

The difference between those who start before they’re ready and those who wait is that the former knows you won’t know what you can do until you do it. Do not miss the train. Opportunities are often late, but they always go away fast. Kinda like life in general, right? Seize the moment today and be proud of yourself for improving you life.


Until next time – have the most wonderful day,

xoxo, Rosanna
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